Service: A Form of Gratitude

Expressing Gratitude

Did you know you could show appreciation in other ways than saying thank you and giving gifts. Sincere appreciation is hard to come by nowadays, people don’t even say ‘Thank you’ anymore. To summarize, people now say Chivalry is dead. I disagree. It’s scarce but not dead. I mean endangered species are still species right? I was taking the 5 languages of Apology test by Gary Chapman because I was arguing with someone. For me, saying sorry doesn’t just fly with me and there are many ways to apologize. I read emotions, facial expressions and body language but what I hate the most is when someone never actually acknowledges that they’re wrong or doesn’t think they are especially when they couldn’t be more wrong. 

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Have you ever considered being of service to anyone? No matter who you are and how materialistic you might be, our innate selves love the idea that someone would go out of their way to ‘do’ something for us. Not pay someone to do it or but something that does it, but actually do something for us with their time and their whole hearts. It’s funny but service differs from scenario to scenario.

For example, if a very strict superior tells you to take a break after working very hard, that they’ll finish it up, it would make you feel very happy because you’ve been appreciated as opposed to your busy friend who you’d want to just give you five minutes of their time so you can hang out together. It’s a very common phenomenon. Children of rich kids want their parent’s attention so they can play ball or watch a movie together, wives of busy spouses just want their husbands to have a candlelit or fireplace dinner with them. It all boils down to service. Volunteering to do something out of your normal schedule which may or may not be convenient for you.

Why do we all want this? Because humans love to feel important and it is only for an important person you would stop everything. I’m sure by now someone must have popped up in your mind. This applies to not only your spouse, friend or family but your community. Sometimes you see people in charge of community affairs saying that even though monetary donations are great, hands on service is often needed as well. It builds a bond among the members of the community. So? how can you be of help? There are many ways you could be of service to anyone or any group. The trick is to ‘See a need, fill a need’

Hence, in honor of the upcoming  Mother’s Day, here’s a thought. Instead of the usual ‘Mother’s Day Gift Ideas’ which a lot of you might be considering, in addition, spend time with your mama. Some mothers would kill just to cook with you or have a family dinner or have an outing with her, just mother to child. I also realize that some of you may have lost your mommies. You know what? Find a mama with no children or a child with no mama. Remember see a need, fill a need. As much as you ca, be of service to someone. The material things may get lost and stolen or even out of date but the memories now and the smile across their face is what you should live for. They are priceless.

Happy Mother’s Day in advance. To all the moms out there, we love and appreciate you.

20 COMMENTS

  1. I love this post so much! It’s so important to show appreciation, and I know I could do it more. I used to be bothered by the thought of “having” to do something for someone else, but now I realize how selfish and (in my case) un-Christian that is of me to think that way. Over the last few months, I’ve been much more gracious and appreciative and helpful toward others, and it’s made me feel so great!

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  3. I agree, without a doubt. There are so many ways to show how much you appreciate a person for what they did or even just to show how much you appreciate them just by being in your life. For me, there’s no better gift than the gift of time. It’s nice to receive stuff, yes, but when a person decides to give you his or her time, that’s more precious than any material gift they can give you.

  4. I always show appreciation in addition to saying the words. Instead of buying gifts, I always take a friend out to the movies or dinner. I would rather share experiences with the people I care about, rather than just buy something for them.

  5. This is such a beautiful post. I’d like to think that I’m a helpful and generous person yet sometimes, I also want a bit of appreciation – not by getting paid or what. A simple thank you goes a long way, but it’s something that a lot of people these days no longer do or say. I also like what you said about being apologetic – everything has to be in sync …. one’s thoughts, words, and actions.

    I always try to show my mom that I appreciate her and all that she does. My Mom isn’t the type who’s big on grand stuff. She enjoys in the little things, which I think is more valuable.

  6. Mother day for me yesterday was rubbish. My mother was more interested in the football – then me. So I do think your post is a sweet gesture and I understand with what you are saying. However at this moment I don’t feel this sentiment. I’m sorry – I’m just a little angry and bitter with her. xx

    • Hi Annalisanuttall, I understand your frustrations and your pain. It is okay to be upset and angry, but do not sin! God knows that we are wired with different emotions and get upset, He designed us. But he does warn us about being angry. Do not let the sun go down on your anger. Sometimes people cannot appreciate the attempts to spend quality time with them. If you know your mom likes football, maybe try enjoying it with her over popcorn and wine! I don’t have a mommy and I know life without one is a rough life. Stay encouraged and just tell her how it made you feel. She probably didn’t know how she upset you.

    • I’m so sorry sweetie. I’m so sorry that you feel so much hurt. It’s okay. Maybe you should try speaking to her and telling her how you feel. She may not know that she made you feel that way. Clear the air so you can feel less angry. Hopefully next year will be better. Much love

  7. There are so many ways to do things without using words. As they say. actions speak louder than words, and anyone can say the words I am sorry, but your actions will show if your words expressed are true. Material items can be replaced. Gratitude and gratefulness are so important.

  8. This is such an important concept to me. I’ve always tried to find ways to be of service to others whether volunteering as a firefighter, in animal rescue, or just helping someone out however I could. I think it is so important to teach our kids this as well. Great post 🙂

  9. My teary eye, I remember my father who always guide and provide a helping hand at my early age. I wish I can turn back time to appreciate his effort, for me to say I love you and thank you.

  10. I know what you mean… I got taught to say please, thank you, sorry and helo… Sometimes i feel like i the only one who got this education. But often, when I greet somebody, it changes a grumpy face into a smiling one… I love the chainreaction of a smile…

  11. I think this is such a thoughtful post – time is the most important gift you can give to anyone. I don’t have a lot of money but I do donate my time to charities and such as it’s something i feel strongly about. Giving your time to other people is such a lovely way to show you care

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